I have a bad habit of complimenting my man every chance I get. You know how while growing up our parents would let us know that we are beautiful creatures created uniquely and no one is more beautiful or special than us? You know why they did that, right?

Behind Every Good Man is a Good… Behind every good man is a good…

1. Upbringing

2. Drive to succeed

3. Will to persevere

4. Character

5. Personality

6. W…

Wait, were you really looking for me to say woman? C’mon, let’s be honest here, hardly ever do you look behind a good/successful man and see a woman as the driving force. Ladies, step down off that pedestal that you have so kindly placed yourselves on and let’s face facts.

A good woman can encourage a man to be a better person but unless a man has a strong desire to succeed at what he does - to go out and work hard towards what he wants to achieve - then a good woman will make little to no difference in his life.

Granted, there are men who have married some amazing women who have helped them build themselves up to a level they would not have achieved on their own, but those men are few and far between.

I am by no means belittling the role women play in the life of a man but before a man takes a wife there are factors that have already shaped him into the man he is or is aiming to become. For one, their drive to be better is an important factor.

A woman can push, encourage, urge, just do everything in her power to get her man to become the best he can be but if he doesn’t have that drive and that will, her efforts will be futile. In fact, women usually come along a bit later in life, and in most cases, AFTER the man has already become what we would term a ‘good man’.

What I really want to know is why you never hear a woman proclaiming that behind every good woman is a good man? Does the saying only flow one way? Are women just as good with or without a man but a man isn’t without a woman?

Well, I, for one, highly disagree. I believe that a man or a woman can be a good person without, separate and apart from the other but it’s the addition of the other that makes them GREAT!

We are fashioned to seek after the love, comfort, care and balance that a husband or wife offers. We can all be good human beings on our own but it takes the support of a spouse to really push us past what we initially saw as our limit. There are really no words to describe what it feels like to know that at the end of the day you go home to someone who understands you, takes care of you, loves you and is just there for you whenever you need them.

I would rather hear it said, “behind every great person is a great support system” because, as I read recently, the person who stands behind you does so because they trust you to lead and the person who leads does so knowing that there is someone who will always have their backs.

Male or female, it goes both ways.

So, as we started we conclude. Behind every good man is a good…

1. Upbringing

2. Drive to succeed

3. Will to persevere

4. Character

5. Personality

6. WOMAN.

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Having recently started a new relationship the subject of ‘how many partners have you slept with’ surfaced and it begs the question, does a woman ever tell the true digit or does she mask it?

Too many good guys are fighting losing battles with not-so-good girls and they shouldn't.

Have you ever observed a relationship and could count 40 reasons why that nice fellow should dump that useless girl? Have you realized that everybody could count the same reasons as you, except the poor fellow?